Last week my daughter calls me to get input on something happening. She has shared parenting with her 11 year old son. He is in middle school and the past month has had a "girlfriend." Girlfriend in the sense they talk on the phone, claim to be boyfriend and girlfriend in school. The two are in all six advanced classes in school all day together. Both good solid kids. They spend a lot of time on the phone. They will be going to the after school dance tomorrow which has been planned.
Last weekend he was at his Dads, he asked his Dad without discussing with mom to be able to buy this girl a gift for their one month anniversary... So the other grandma with direction from dad went to buy a necklace for this girl. He comes home with this "Diamond" cut accent "18 K" over silver heart necklace that ran about $20.00. Mandie feels it is not ok... one month anniversary?? what do they do for the second and where does this lead???? Buying affection? Any way Mandie does a little research and learns the girls birthday is December 13th, so soon, the dance is coming up, and Christmas is just around the corner... So maybe if this means so much to him if he took the focus off the ANNIVERSARY GIFT, she might be Ok with a gift but why so much,,,, not in value but she feels it is a lot to give an eleven year old. A small box of chocolates more what she is thinking is OK..... What will her parents think is another question... so the saga is on.
They decide to give the necklace to her at the dance for an all encompassed; I like you, Birthday, Christmas gift... Everyone is agreed --Mandie, with reservation. SO the necklace gets placed on the pool table in the Target bag...It gets scooped up and almost into the garbage it goes.... Mandie takes the necklace and puts it on top of their arcade game safe out of the way not in the bag so no one would think it was trash.... It is safe.....
Last night they went to get it and it is gone.... Melo is way to little, no one else is in the house and Mandie and Larry take their house apart to the point Mandie goes out to the trash and dumps it to search for this necklace.......LOL You know she is dying.... she didn't want to deal with this in the first place..... So the necklace seems to have vanished...
Today Mandie is driving to Target to replace the necklace and on her way she calls me....
"Mom I can not figure out the lesson he has put upon me today" "What am I suppose to be learning here" and she tells me all the above information about the lost necklace. I am trying hard not to laugh. She said she can not believe this is happening and not that she doesn't want to spend the money it is the whole idea of does she even agree this is OK for an eleven year old to buy for a girl???? She said when the clerk said will this be all for today...She says, I really don't want this,,,, but yeah this is all.... She then goes through the entire spiel with the clerk who wished her Happy Holiday and good luck.
If it wasn't that Christopher was so upset in tears over the lost necklace and him possibly not being able to give this girl this gift, Mandie said the whole thing seems surreal...
She then tells me it was just yesterday she and he were at Fridays eating and having fun together, the days when she was his only girl; he thought about only her and she was the most important person in the world to him and she was his everything..... What happened to him wanting to only talk to me???? LOL Growing pains being in the mom role.
